what keeps people stuck isn’t just stress or symptoms—it’s the quiet hope that one day, life will finally feel complete, in control, and exactly as it “should” be.
but chasing that ideal means cutting off parts of yourself, and the harder you hold it together, the more it comes apart inside.
the aim of our work together
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The more we try to get everything right, the more we drift from the life we’re actually living. Satisfaction doesn’t come from having it all together—it comes from letting go of the need for things to always add up or feel resolved. Our struggle to tolerate dissatisfaction often makes satisfaction so elusive.
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The chase of an impossible ideal that promises complete satisfaction creates an endless and exhausting loop of striving and self‑doubt. Transformation comes from grounding that desire—letting it guide you toward meaning, connection, and pursuits that make life feel more lived than chased.
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The pain and loss of failure can feel too overwhelming to face, so we often cover it over with platitudes or pressure to “stay strong.” Without the tools to interpret it, failure becomes personal—we don’t just fail; we feel like failures. And yet, failure can be generative in ways success never could be.
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Growth doesn’t mean rejecting where you are. It means letting who you are now be part of the process, not a problem to overcome. You can want more without disowning what’s here. Growth isn’t about fixing yourself—it’s about showing up honestly, staying open to change, and learning from the times you’ve fallen and gotten back up. The fact that it’s hard doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong. It means it matters.
therapy process
Therapy is more than “just talking.”
Our words communicate more than we know. The mind isn’t a passive observer of life—it actively shapes how we see, interpret, and respond to the world. In therapy we talk to hear the thoughts our minds regularly won’t acknowledge.
Talking brings those unspoken thoughts into the open—the ones quietly driving your choices and keeping you striving for a version of yourself that leaves you feeling more disconnected.
We’re not digging for something buried or chasing a moment in the past that explains everything. We work with what’s here—your words, your patterns, your hesitations—because that’s where the conflicts and contradictions are that keep you stuck are already playing out.
In everyday life, we often rehearse certain lines and thoughts—about who we are, what we should do, what others expect—that quietly shape how we see ourselves and the world. Talk therapy helps bring those scripts into the open— noticing the recurring lines to understand how they guide your decisions.
Therapy is a way of listening—to yourself—in a way everyday life doesn’t allow.
This kind of listening gives you the context you need to understand yourself more fully. And with that deeper understanding, change becomes possible—not by controlling your thoughts to make yourself feel better, but because you begin to acknowledge and include often overlooked aspects of your experience.
In therapy, we make these scripts heard so they no longer run in the background unnoticed, so the grips are loosened and stops dictating every choice you make.
Therapy helps you step out of that cycle, so you can respond to life in ways that feel more grounded, authentic, and connected.
how we do therapy
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Description text goes herI work with clients at least once a week. Meeting less often usually turns sessions into “catch-up” conversations, which can slow progress and make therapy take longer.
Therapy isn’t like most conversations—it’s a different way of talking, listening, and relating. It takes consistent engagement to settle into that process and keep the work moving forward.
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We’ll talk about whatever feels most important to you in the moment. Sometimes that means your past—because old patterns still shape the present—but we won’t force you to revisit anything you’re not ready to.
*see more about therapy approach above.
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Our first session is about getting to know you—why you’re coming, what you’ve been experiencing, and what you’d like to be different.
From there, we’ll take a closer look at your personal history and current life. This helps us understand the patterns and pressures shaping your experience, and gives us a foundation to decide our plan for treatment and where to focus our work together.
Once we have that direction, we’ll shift into the regular rhythm of therapy. You’ll bring in what’s been on your mind or showing up in your life lately, and we’ll work together to see how it connects to the bigger picture of what you’re wanting to change.
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Nothing formal. You don’t need to have the “right” topic prepared—what you bring in each week becomes the starting point for where the conversation goes. You can come in with a specific situation or feeling you want to talk about, or simply begin with what’s been most on your mind. Sometimes the most important things show up when you don’t have a plan.
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There’s nothing you have to do. The process works by increasing your attention to your own experience, this includes outside of therapy, but potentially more importantly in therapy. Therapy often deepens when you notice that what you want to change “out there” is also showing up in how you feel about therapy and our relationship. Paying attention to these moments—whether it’s discomfort, frustration, excitement, or a shift in perspective—can open up new understanding and help us work with the patterns as they happen.
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There’s no set timeline. The duration of therapy is unique to each person and a decision that is up to you.
The therapeutic process requires slowing down, consistency, and commitment to create lasting change. The type of outcome we are working towards is the kind that has a cumulative effect— where continued growth happens after treatment has ended.
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Coming ready to reflect doesn’t mean you need to have something prepared. Often, the most meaningful work begins with the small things—a passing thought, a recent conversation, a feeling you can’t quite name, or even a dream or a scene from a film or song that stuck with you.
If you’re unsure where to start, that’s okay—therapy isn’t a performance, and there’s no “right” thing to say. We can begin wherever you are, and together we’ll see how those threads connect to the bigger patterns in your life. Often, the “I don’t know what to say” moments lead us somewhere important.
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Friends and family can be a great source of comfort, but therapy offers something different. In our work together, you’ll have a confidential space where you can say what you really think and feel—without worrying about judgment, rejection, or hurting the relationship. I also bring specialized training and a structured approach designed to help you notice patterns, explore your experience more deeply, and work toward lasting change.