people often come to therapy because life isn’t working how they thought it would…and they want something different, new.

is this you?

You’ve done what you’re supposed to do. Worked hard. Held it together. On the outside, things look fine.

But inside, something feels off. Like something’s missing.

The satisfaction, the ease, the sense of arrival… it hasn’t come. And you’re starting to wonder if it ever will.

You can’t name it exactly — only that the things that used to motivate you now feel hollow. It’s exhausting. The striving, the planning, the effort… it’s no longer leading anywhere that feels like you.

Now that you’re here — wherever “here” is —
it’s not just different from what you imagined.
It’s different from who you thought you’d be.

Over time, you start to notice it’s not just that things aren’t working — it’s that you’re living the same cycle on repeat. You get down on yourself, pull away, feel more anxious or depressed. Other times you rally, telling yourself this will be the time you finally get it together… only to find yourself right back where you started.

It’s a loop.

And what keeps it going is the imagined promise that one day everything will feel complete, satisfying, and under control. That belief keeps you striving for an ideal version of yourself — and rejecting the parts of you that don’t fit the image. The harder you chase it, the more disconnected you feel from who you are.

In trying to become who you think you should be, you abandon yourself.

But it doesn’t have to stay that way. Therapy is a place to slow down, listen closely, and understand what’s keeping the loop in place. Together, we work to loosen its hold so you can respond to life in ways that feel more grounded, free, and connected.

You can learn more about how I help and what’s possible for you on my approach page.

my specialties

It can be helpful to have a name for what you’re feeling—diagnosis can bring clarity and relief. But diagnosis alone doesn’t always explain why the symptoms are there or what they mean for your life.

My aim as a clinician isn’t just to help you manage a set of symptoms. It’s to give you a framework for understanding the meaning and the internal conflicts behind them — so change can come from a deeper place.

  • Anxiety often shows up quietly—through tension, overthinking, restlessness, or the constant feeling that something’s just a little off. It’s become your default setting: living in your head, analyzing every conversation, every outcome, every possible risk. You’ve built your life around staying prepared and in control, but it’s starting to feel like the more you try to manage it, the more it manages you. And even when nothing is obviously wrong, it’s hard to fully exhale.

  • Depression doesn’t always look like sadness—it can feel more like numbness, disconnection, or just going through the motions. You’re doing what needs to be done, but life feels distant and dull. You’ve been holding it together for a long time, but something inside feels heavy. It’s not just exhaustion—it’s a flatness, like you’ve lost the thread of what used to matter. Even the things you once enjoyed don’t land the same. It’s not that you don’t care—it’s that it’s hard to feel anything at all.

  • You’ve done a lot to heal—maybe learned how to manage the triggers, how to feel safer in your body. But there’s still something unresolved, like the trauma shaped how you see yourself, and you’re not sure what’s left of you outside of it. It’s not just about what happened—it’s about what it meant, what it changed, and what you lost or took on in response. You want to understand how it lives in you now—and what else might be possible beyond it.

  • Life has shifted—maybe by choice, maybe not—and you’re left trying to make sense of where you are. You thought you’d be further along by now, or at least more sure of the path. Instead, you feel stuck—pulled between old regrets, lingering attachments, and the fear that change might only bring more uncertainty. Regret often holds the shape of an ideal that hasn’t been mourned—an imagined version of how life was supposed to go that still quietly sets the standard. It’s not about lacking direction—it’s about reconnecting with the part of you that knows how to move forward.

  • You used to believe the relationship would make everything feel right. But now there’s a gap—between what you hoped for and what’s actually unfolding. You find yourself disappointed, reactive, maybe even keeping score. You swing between idealizing the connection and feeling let down, always wondering if you’re the problem or just not “enough.” The more you try to get it right, the more disconnected or resentful you feel. It’s like you’re doing everything “right,” but still not feeling close.

I work especially well with clients who are:

  • You’re willing to look at different aspects of your life with honesty and curiosity—even if they’re uncomfortable. You may not always know what you’re looking for, but you’re open to asking better questions.

  • You want more than a quick fix. Maybe you’ve tried strategies or advice before, but you’re looking for something deeper—real change that comes from understanding yourself, not just managing the surface.

  • You’re not looking for someone to tell you what to do. You want a space where you can reflect, take initiative, and explore what matters to you—with someone who’s listening closely and provided a framework for your exploration.

  • We don’t assume the problem is obvious—if it were, you probably wouldn’t be here. Together, we slow down and look at the patterns, contradictions, and hidden logics that shape your experience. Not to rush toward solutions, but to create space for clarity, honesty, and meaningful change

  • Wanting answers is different than needing answers. Wanting puts you in a position of searching—of being open, curious, and engaged. Needing, on the other hand, can create pressure to resolve things too quickly, to force clarity before it’s ready. In this work, we make space