therapy for those always expecting more from yourself
are you overly critical of yourself when you make even a small mistake?
do you put off decisions or tasks because you're afraid of making the wrong choice?
do you struggle to enjoy your accomplishments before moving on to the next thing?
does "good enough" often feel like settling?
do you replay conversations, decisions, or mistakes wondering what you should have done differently?
perfectionism can create a lot of pressure
A world that places a high value on achievement and productivity, striving to do your best can easily become pressure to always do more.
Whether at work, in relationships, or in your personal life, you may find yourself holding yourself to standards that are difficult to maintain.
The constant pursuit of getting things right can leave you feeling anxious, frustrated, and overly critical of yourself.
Even when you accomplish what you set out to do, your attention may quickly turn toward what could have been better or what needs to happen next.
Perfectionism is not just about having high standards. It can become a cycle of constantly striving for more while rarely allowing yourself to feel satisfied with what you have already done.
Over time, the pressure to avoid mistakes or get things right can begin to affect your mood, confidence, and relationships.
Things that once felt rewarding may start to feel like another opportunity to fall short, making it difficult to relax or feel like what you have done is ever truly enough.
perfectionism can affect anyone
You may hold yourself to high standards at work, in your relationships, and in your personal life. Even when things are going well, it can be difficult to feel satisfied with what you’ve accomplished.
Instead, your attention may quickly turn toward what you could have done better, what still needs to get done, or where you may have fallen short. Over time, the desire to do things well can begin to feel like pressure to get everything right.
For women, that pressure often shows up across many different parts of life at once.
Many women experience expectations around their careers, relationships, appearance, family, and caring for others. You may feel like you should be able to manage all of these responsibilities while making it look relatively easy.
Slowing down can bring guilt. Saying no can feel selfish. And making a mistake in one area of your life can make it difficult to recognize everything you’re managing well in the others.
When you’re struggling with perfectionism, simply telling yourself to lower your standards usually isn’t enough. Therapy can help you understand where these expectations come from, become less critical of yourself when you fall short, and pursue the things that matter to you without feeling like you always have to get them right.
how therapy for perfectionism helps
Therapy for perfectionism can help you develop a healthier relationship with achievement, mistakes, and the expectations you place on yourself.
Treatment can help you recognize unrealistic standards, manage the anxiety that comes with falling short of them, and become less critical of yourself when things do not go exactly as planned.
Over time, therapy can help you become more flexible, make decisions with greater confidence, and experience your accomplishments without immediately focusing on what could have been better. You can continue to care about doing things well without feeling like everything has to be done perfectly.
sessions designed for you
In our sessions, we will look at more than how to lower your standards. We will work to understand why getting things right has come to feel so important and what it means to you when you fall short.
We may pay attention to the expectations you carry, how quickly you criticize yourself, and the rules you have developed about what you should be able to accomplish or handle.
Rather than asking you to stop caring or trying, our work will help you understand what keeps moving the standard for what feels like enough. The goal is to create more freedom in how you respond to mistakes, expectations, and your own ambitions.
